She asked, “are you a writer?”
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I never thought of myself as a writer. For me, writing was a shelter. The lines and curves of letters gave shape to the empty, lonely spaces outside of and within myself. Writing was less of a discipline and more of a companion, a connection to myself, my remembered past, my perceived present, my imagined future.
“…I have been so happy,” I replied.
And this was the truth. I grew happy. Those dense, contemplative spaces softened over time, unfolding like magnolias succumb to the warm April sun. The lines and curves were not so necessary.
Love did this for me; the steady kind of love that is more parts patience and humility than romance and excitement. Marriage, mountains, and salt water did this for me. Being closer to family, Abe and Junie, and good work eased those lonely parts in me.
And I am still so happy. However, I see and hear at the edges, in the corners a familiar thing. Fear, shadows, lonely bits never quite leave us, even as we stand in so much light.
And so I do what I know has worked before. I write. I dig a new tunnel within myself with shovels and lines and a heart-beat cursor.
The specialist labeled it with unfamiliar medical terms that simply mean my body cannot quite make a baby, without money and medication, a manufactured conception. Or a miracle. I am clumsy with this truth. I am not graceful with generous optimism or complimentary advice. I crawl through, and mostly around, honesty.
I anticipated waiting, longing; this is how I have lived much of my life, late blooming. Longing can be both a holy devotion and damning obsession. And most days are quiet, filled with work rackets, dirty dishes, master degrees, distractions.
However, waiting is grief, filling in any empty space or time. Felt most in the little deaths of the imaginary life I create when I let my mind wander and dream, when I let my mind free.
The joyful telling of family.
The picture in my mind of a swelling belly.
The grainy radio heartbeats and shadowy silhouettes of images and promises.
The growing and becoming.
The tantrums and the lullabies.
This is all my imagination, but this is the closest I come.
The closest I come to you.
For now.
You who will be a little slice of heaven on earth. You who will exhaust me with touch and snot and sound, who will be both my doing and undoing. You who will be laughter, color, bone, and wonder.
I think I love you now, and I will surely love you then. You will be my greatest and favorite wait. Even if there are a million little heartbreaks in between. Brokenness always makes more room. The grief, both holy and unholy, is all I have of you.
For now.
I write to hold you. In the lines and curves and broken heart-beat cursors, love letters. I write for you.